Had a ‘drama’ of meeting prep…after ‘cool-down’, I saw how it started, in my head: I was the initiative lead, why she sent a meeting agenda without consulting me? In her head: I was a new comer, she followed the ‘book’, and got approval from her boss, why I wanted to change now?
I reached out, first thanking her to collect people’s inputs and asked to see the results. To my delight, there were good ideas. In our follow-up call, I thanked her again and said I ‘should’ ask her about the results and give her direction for the next steps. She ‘softened’ and said that she should communicate with me. We laughed at ‘the ideas in our head’ then discussed/ aligned the goal of the meeting and how to collaborate (communicate) better forward.
I’m glad we talked it out and cleared things up quickly, even better, we were candid to each other and ‘strengthened’ the relationship forward.