I
went to a friend’s house for dinner and we chatted about parents. I mentioned
it seems easier/ less works for my parents to visit me than I go home because
they’d insist to take me to different places and restaurants everyday. She was
so ‘touched’. She said when she went home, her parents continue their life,
going out with friends without inviting her. One year at mid autumn festival,
one of the 3 biggest Chinese holidays, her parents told her to enjoy the
mooncake herself when they left the house. It made her husband shocked. She
wasn’t bitter but admired how ‘close’ my parents and I are. I haven’t thought
of that and sometimes feel mom worrying or nagging a bit too much.
We then talked about traveling. She was over-joyed and
‘admired’ my ease of flying. I ‘simply’ eat, watch movies, read, sleep on the
flight…when I wake up, dala…I’m there. How difficult could it be? However,
for her, flying gives her a stomach ache and she can’t sleep which makes long
int’l flight tough. Again, I have never thought of ‘easy flying’ unique.
I’ve learned 2 things besides having a fun evening with my
friend…
1. People, things we may take for granted are ‘special’.
Appreciate who we are and what we have.
2. We can also feel happy from others’ differences and talents.
No bitter or jealous but admire and celebrate each other’s uniqueness.